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		<title>Pain VS Gain:  How to Best Motivate Buyers to Buy</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jul 2015 02:45:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Denise Corcoran]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p><em> Guest Article by Dan Seidman</em></p>
<p><strong><a href="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/Dan-Piano-SMEI-3-Standing-e1435881096130.jpg"><img class=" size-medium wp-image-2767 alignleft" src="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/Dan-Piano-SMEI-3-Standing-200x300.jpg" alt="Dan Piano SMEI 3 Standing" width="200" height="300" /></a>Picture this, you’re 12 years old and you fly into the house</strong> after school. “Mom, Dad, guess what I decided today? I’m gonna be a doctor!”</p>
<p>Mom is always encouraging. “Honey, that’s great! Doctors are well respected. You’ll make good money, have a nice spouse and a nice house. I’m so glad you’re going to be a doctor.”</p>
<p>In contrast, how might Dad respond? “A doctor? Are you kidding me? Do you know how many years you have to go to school to become a doctor? Do you know how much money it costs? And you’ll be working with sick people all day.</p>
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				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em> Guest Article by Dan Seidman</em></p>
<p><strong><a href="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/Dan-Piano-SMEI-3-Standing-e1435881096130.jpg"><img class=" size-medium wp-image-2767 alignleft" src="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/Dan-Piano-SMEI-3-Standing-200x300.jpg" alt="Dan Piano SMEI 3 Standing" width="200" height="300" /></a>Picture this, you’re 12 years old and you fly into the house</strong> after school. “Mom, Dad, guess what I decided today? I’m gonna be a doctor!”</p>
<p>Mom is always encouraging. “Honey, that’s great! Doctors are well respected. You’ll make good money, have a nice spouse and a nice house. I’m so glad you’re going to be a doctor.”</p>
<p>In contrast, how might Dad respond? “A doctor? Are you kidding me? Do you know how many years you have to go to school to become a doctor? Do you know how much money it costs? And you’ll be working with sick people all day. And malpractice insurance…” And on and on and on he goes.</p>
<p>These two parents are revealing their decision-making processes. Mom likes good things, benefits. Dad sees a world of problems and pain.</p>
<p><strong>If you’re a sales pro, this is something you’ll want to recognize</strong> in your buyers. Some of them are quite positive. They move toward your offerings. Others seem negative, disagreeable, moving away from ideas you offer.</p>
<p>In psychology we call this “direction.” Its origins? A 19<sup>th</sup> century philosopher, Arthur Schopenhauer. He is credited with recognizing that people are motivated by their direction. Some seek to attain good things and move toward them. Others want to avoid problems, so they move away.</p>
<p>This has been adopted in Educational Psychology where students, teachers, administrators and parents are recognized by these two motivational categories.</p>
<p><strong>What’s in this for you? Insights that will help you increase sales.</strong> The selling world was influenced to only offer benefits to buyers, beginning in the 1960s and 1970s. In the 80s, it was popular to sell by identifying a buyer’s “pain.”</p>
<p>Pain-based selling is still the rage. The problem is both approaches are right and wrong, depending on whether you recognize which buyer you’re dealing with. Great sales pros know exactly how to influence either type, because they ask a powerful question that tells which person is sitting in front of them (or on the phone). In a word, great salespeople know how to speak a buyers “dialect.” The seller matches language to the direction revealed by the buyer.</p>
<p>So how do we know which type of buyer we’re dealing with?</p>
<p><strong>You ask a powerful question that reveals the buyer’s type. </strong>You ask this question, as early as possible, in a conversation. You then utilize your newly discovered verbal agility to speak their dialect.</p>
<p>First you get the question. Then you’ll learn how to build two distinct sales presentations – one for Pain and one for Gain-based buyers.</p>
<p><em>What’s important to you about… X?</em></p>
<p>X is your service or product offering. How to use this? I’ll give you real examples from a sales training program I recently designed for a major financial services firm. They learned to ask the question in a couple different ways;</p>
<p><em>What’s important to you about a financial services rep?</em></p>
<p>OR</p>
<p><em>What’s important to you about a financial product?</em></p>
<p>The answers give you great insight into your buyer for one simple reason.</p>
<p><strong>The buyers respond by sharing a story.</strong></p>
<p>It’s a good story: “we really want at least a 10% return, so we can go on a Mediterranean cruise this fall.”</p>
<p>OR</p>
<p>It’s a bad story: “The last guy who managed our money lost 40% of our portfolio. So we couldn’t afford to go on a Mediterranean cruise we planned.”</p>
<p>Now you know exactly what type of decision-maker you’re speaking to. So you know exactly what language you’ll use to reach them. TIP: If their answer is a bit vague (“We just want a better rep”), dig deeper “Okay, please tell me more about that.” and you’ll get their direction soon enough.</p>
<p>Once you know, you’ll need to be prepared to have some bullet points to use, Gain-based and Pain-based language to use during the sales call.</p>
<p>The following example comes from coaching a Mazda/ VW automotive dealership sales team.</p>
<p style="text-align: left; padding-left: 120px;"><strong>CAR CHART EXAMPLE</strong></p>
<table style="height: 513px;" width="513">
<tbody>
<tr>
<td style="text-align: center;" width="205"><strong>TO (Gain, Benefits)</strong></td>
<td style="text-align: center;" width="230"><strong>AWAY (Pain, Problems</strong></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td width="205">Lots of prestige in owning a nice, new car; lookin’ successful.</td>
<td style="padding-left: 30px;" width="230">Uh, I’m really embarrassed to take a client to lunch in my car.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td width="205">New, unique color, nobody else has it.</td>
<td style="padding-left: 30px;" width="230">This older model doesn’t really send a message that I’m successful.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td width="205">This is sooo fast; it’s fun to drive!</td>
<td style="padding-left: 30px;" width="230">I’m nervous and need a safe car, because my kids are riding in it regularly.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td width="205">Super smooth ride, handles like a dream. This is the most comfortable car I could ever imagine.</td>
<td style="padding-left: 30px;" width="230">With this thing, I’m feeling every bump in the road. It’s killing my back.</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td width="205">1000-year warranty! All upkeep and maintenance is free.</td>
<td style="padding-left: 30px;" width="230">I’m frustrated by it breaking down every month.<strong> </strong></td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p>You get the picture. This is clear, simple to build and you’ll sound so much more convincing when you’re connecting with potential clients.</p>
<p><strong>Build this chart now with your sales team. </strong>If you don’t have a team, brainstorm it with a networking group or fellow entrepreneurs. Just get this language down, because it’s critical to connecting with your buyers.</p>
<p>You now know whether to use Pain or Gain to best motivate buyers to buy.</p>
<p><strong>If you’d like, I have a gift for you.</strong> It’s a Cheat Sheet of Pain and Gain-based language to use in constructing your chart. Send me an email and I’ll get it to you right way. <span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="mailto:Dan@GotInfluenceInc.com">Dan@GotInfluenceInc.com</a>.</span></p>
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<h4> <strong>Byline</strong></h4>
<p><em>Dan Seidman was recognized as the </em>International Sales Training Leader of the Year<em> in 2013 for his work designing and re-designing existing sales training, in order to significantly increase sales team performance.  </em></p>
<p><em>His body of work can be found in </em>The Ultimate Guide to Sales Training<em> (Pfeiffer, 2012), a 600 page encyclopedia of best-practices. Dan is also the author of 5 books, including the #1 business best-seller, </em>Sales Autopsy<em> (Kaplan, 2006).  </em><em>For training, coaching or consulting contact Dan today at 1-847-359-7860 or </em><span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="mailto:Dan@GotInfluenceInc.com" target="_blank"><em>Dan@GotInfluenceInc.com</em></a><em>.</em></span></p>
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		<title>Top Leaders Communicate Authority Through Body Language.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 20 May 2015 00:05:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Denise Corcoran]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<h2><strong>Do You?</strong></h2>
<p>&#160;</p>
<p><a href="https://www.flickr.com/photos/art_es_anna/3004284537/in/photolist-5ztK8g-drnVxv-NAHSP-dNw8Bx-4u6Bcp-5znMDA-6ndjZ-5zSxwb-4FP7NQ-6221nQ-5TTUfg-4eNEjn-2RF1Ds-28LtKq-5snecs-4pRiyD-5vAnTX-5fxhrB-5AEcGU-5jsPLL-5jsF8E-drhZFX-5TPe7V-4oNwEv-dRKmBc-di12eo-57ng7S-4CDVLw-5W1DC1-9s5pvf-4uQJ73-4TQZoA-5T4iy9-5emg3x-4jc7qe-cobF47-5TJ6h4-4pRfxz-5TTts4-aqu2s5-NtdWn-4ceAXk-6ud4kr-57MQDd-4eNEhn-6bW1Xn-aCbcHH-4tSkrt-5hUvky-4TnHpL"><img class="aligncenter wp-image-2623 size-full" src="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/3004284537_de861a4a79_o-e1432076273889.jpg" alt="obama" width="350" height="243" /></a></p>
<p>&#160;</p>
<p><strong>Can your body language …</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Make a difference in commanding leadership authority?</li>
<li>Create trust or mistrust within an organization?</li>
<li>Change your emotions after a stressful day?</li>
</ul>
<p>Absolutely!!</p>
<p><strong>Leadership authority is a by-product of 2 related aspects of yourself </strong>– <strong>your physiology and your emotional state.</strong> Call them the <em>yin and yang</em> of leadership authority.</p>
<p><strong>The purpose of this article is NOT to give you a list of gestures, postures or leadership do’s and don’ts to communicate authority.</strong> Your emotions and your body language are both driven by your mind. And your mind is too complex for such generalizations.</p>
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				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2><strong>Do You?</strong></h2>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><a href="https://www.flickr.com/photos/art_es_anna/3004284537/in/photolist-5ztK8g-drnVxv-NAHSP-dNw8Bx-4u6Bcp-5znMDA-6ndjZ-5zSxwb-4FP7NQ-6221nQ-5TTUfg-4eNEjn-2RF1Ds-28LtKq-5snecs-4pRiyD-5vAnTX-5fxhrB-5AEcGU-5jsPLL-5jsF8E-drhZFX-5TPe7V-4oNwEv-dRKmBc-di12eo-57ng7S-4CDVLw-5W1DC1-9s5pvf-4uQJ73-4TQZoA-5T4iy9-5emg3x-4jc7qe-cobF47-5TJ6h4-4pRfxz-5TTts4-aqu2s5-NtdWn-4ceAXk-6ud4kr-57MQDd-4eNEhn-6bW1Xn-aCbcHH-4tSkrt-5hUvky-4TnHpL"><img class="aligncenter wp-image-2623 size-full" src="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/3004284537_de861a4a79_o-e1432076273889.jpg" alt="obama" width="350" height="243" /></a></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>Can your body language …</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Make a difference in commanding leadership authority?</li>
<li>Create trust or mistrust within an organization?</li>
<li>Change your emotions after a stressful day?</li>
</ul>
<p>Absolutely!!</p>
<p><strong>Leadership authority is a by-product of 2 related aspects of yourself </strong>– <strong>your physiology and your emotional state.</strong> Call them the <em>yin and yang</em> of leadership authority.</p>
<p><strong>The purpose of this article is NOT to give you a list of gestures, postures or leadership do’s and don’ts to communicate authority.</strong> Your emotions and your body language are both driven by your mind. And your mind is too complex for such generalizations.</p>
<p><strong>An effective gesture in one context may backfire in another context. </strong> A smile may uplift people in certain situations. A smile when someone is angry however may escalate more anger.</p>
<p><strong>The goal of this article is to teach you how to use your body language for communicating leadership authority, </strong>building deep trust and even changing your emotional state. Your body language can enhance or destroy your business relationships and influence on others. Let’s look at why.</p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<h2><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>The Mind Body Leadership Connection</strong></span></h2>
<p><strong>A physiology of confidence is different than a physiology of worry.</strong> Your emotions follow your physiology by responding to tension levels, breath rate, speed of movement and your focus. On the other end, scientists now know that different emotions have a clear physiological response shown through your body language.</p>
<p><strong>For example, anger can be detected through such body signals</strong> as leaning forward, flushed face and invasion of someone else’s space. Fear often triggers a dry mouth, holding one’s breath, lack of eye contact and other “fight or flight” signals.</p>
<p><strong>You can also intentionally alter your emotional state</strong> by altering your physiology. For example, taking a few deep breaths can transform anxiety and stress to relaxation and clarity in an instant.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2><strong style="color: #800000;">Create your physiology of leadership.</strong></h2>
<p><strong>Have you ever attended a Tony Robbins’ event?</strong> If you have, you know that Tony Robbins is Mr. Physiology himself.</p>
<div id="attachment_2618" style="width: 235px" class="wp-caption alignleft"><a href="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/SteveGamage-e1432071838922.jpg"><img class="wp-image-2618 size-medium" src="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/SteveGamage-225x300.jpg" alt="Tony Robbins" width="225" height="300" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Firewalk Steve Gamage (flickr)</p></div>
<p>He is a master at energizing thousands of people for long 18-20 hour days non-stop. He is a master at teaching participants – scared out of their minds &#8212; to walk over hot coals by putting “mind over matter.” His magic?</p>
<p><strong>He builds into your neurology a new physiology to change your state of mind.</strong> All that dancing on the stage is for a reason. Pumping your fist in the air … yes, that’s intentional too.  From my involvement in a number of his programs, I learned I can change my emotions in an instant by changing my physiology.</p>
<p><strong>Want to feel more passion?</strong> Move more rapidly. Speak more rapidly. Model the physiology of the most passionate people you know.</p>
<p><strong>Want to interrupt anxiety or fear? </strong> Look up at the sky, smile and say the made up mantra “<em>cool moss.” </em>The latter is just to distract your mind from thinking fear thoughts.</p>
<p><strong>Want to show authority?</strong> Stand tall with feet shoulder width apart and weight equally balanced.   Because authority is nonverbally communicated through height and space, the taller you appear and the more room you occupy, the more you look like you are in command. Remember also to <span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" href="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/unleashing-your-leadership-presence/" target="_blank">own your space</a></span> as addressed in <span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" title="Unleashing Your Leadership Presence …" href="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/unleashing-your-leadership-presence/" target="_blank"><em>Unleashing your Leadership Presence.</em></a></span></p>
<p><strong>The work that Tony Robbins has been doing for decades is now backed by science.</strong></p>
<p>According to <a href="http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-you-can-become-more-p/" target="_blank">researchers at Columbia and Harvard Universities</a>, <strong>body language symbolizing power can actually affect leadership decision-making.</strong> Those who stood in power poses not only felt more powerful and in control. They were 45% more likely to take risks.</p>
<p><strong>Purposefully <em>expand </em>your posture and you will alter your hormone levels</strong> – decreasing cortisol and increasing testosterone. A lower cortisol means lower stress. Higher testosterone means higher energy and an improved mood.</p>
<p><strong>Takeaway</strong>: One small change in posture can trigger significant changes in how you feel and what you do.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<h2><strong style="color: #800000;">Create instant trust and influence with your body language.</strong></h2>
<p><strong>When you look at charismatic leaders, they have one skill in common – the ability to create deep rapport.</strong> Rapport is essential for any meaningful communications to take place &#8212; whether between a leader and a peer, between a boss and employee, between a leader and the entire organization.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><em>Anything is possible in the presence of rapport.</em></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><em>Nothing is possible without it.</em></p>
<p style="text-align: center; padding-left: 240px;">Dr. Milton Erickson</p>
<p><strong>There is no leadership influence or trust without rapport</strong>. Have you ever had the experience of talking to someone and sensing disconnection when they did not respond? It’s uncomfortable not to have rapport with someone. Now you can change all that with rapport building skills, as outlined in this article.</p>
<p><strong>First, however, we need to define what rapport IS and IS NOT.</strong> Let’s clarify the common myths about rapport.</p>
<p><strong>Rapport IS …</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Deep unconscious connection with another that creates understanding and trust.</li>
<li>Appreciating (not necessarily agreeing with) another’s perspective.</li>
<li>Understanding and accepting another’s feelings.</li>
<li>A form of influence</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Rapport IS NOT about …</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Liking someone</li>
<li>Small talk</li>
<li>Similar interests</li>
<li>Accepting what someone says or does.<strong> </strong></li>
</ul>
<p><strong>The above means that you can have rapport with someone and not even like them. </strong>You can have rapport with someone while disagreeing with them. You can have rapport without needing to create small talk.</p>
<p><strong>People in rapport experience a resonance with each other.</strong> They adopt the same posture, gestures, head tilt and rate of breathing. When one leans, the other leans too. All of this body language <em>matching </em>is happening below their conscious awareness.</p>
<h3><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Step 1: Set an intention of win/win.</strong></span></h3>
<p><strong>The first step is to set an intention for a win/win outcome with someone you would like to build rapport. </strong> Because matching and mirroring physiology (or even written communications) is so powerful for building rapport, it should never be used for manipulative reasons.</p>
<h3><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Step 2: </strong><strong>Match physiology.</strong></span></h3>
<p><strong>Pick at lease one aspect of that person’s physiology you would like to match until you sense rapport.</strong></p>
<p>Below are a few options.</p>
<ul>
<li>Smile</li>
<li>Arms or legs crossed</li>
<li>Siting back or forward</li>
<li>Source of breath – chest, under the diaphragm or in the belly</li>
<li>Rate of breath</li>
<li>Eye contact</li>
<li>Eye brows raised</li>
<li>Tilting of head or body</li>
<li>Sitting slouched or upright</li>
</ul>
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<p><strong>By matching someone’s body language, you put yourself in sync with the other person’s behavior and meet them in their model of the world. </strong> It’s magical when it happens!<strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>The secret to successful rapport building is to match and mirror outside the other person’s conscious awareness. </strong>When you match someone’s body language, you <span style="text-decoration: underline;">would not</span> do so simultaneously with the other person. Instead, you would wait till it is your turn to speak and then use a similar gesture or aspect of posture. This way they become aware of your connection on an unconscious level.</p>
<p><strong>Matching and mirroring is not just a physiological phenomenon.</strong> When you are in rapport, you activate the same thinking and feeling circuitry – called mirror neurons – in your brain as in the other person. You think similar thoughts. You feel similar feelings. Doing so creates an instant connection and trust.</p>
<h3><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Step 3: </strong><strong>Test your rapport level.</strong></span></h3>
<p><strong>After you have been matching and mirroring for 5 – 10 minutes, check to see if you have rapport with the other person.</strong></p>
<p><strong>To do so, stop matching and intentionally shift some aspect of your physiology</strong> &#8212; such as, crossing your legs or leaning back in your chair – and notice what happens.</p>
<p>Does the other person’s body language start to mimic yours?</p>
<p><strong>If so, you are in rapport.</strong> Once you have successfully matched, you create an environment in which you can <em>lead</em> the other person where you want them to go.</p>
<p><strong>For a leader, that’s power!</strong> The possibilities are endless how a leader can use rapport to influence an individual or an entire organization, such as …</p>
<ul>
<li>Getting <strong>emotional buy-in</strong> from employees for your company’s vision.</li>
<li>Leading change within your organization <strong>without resistance</strong>.</li>
<li>Creating <strong>alignment </strong>with your peers around a common decision</li>
<li><strong>Relaxing</strong> nervous job candidates during an interview</li>
<li>Introducing a <strong>new way of doing things</strong> when a person or team has become fixed in their ways.</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Takeaway</strong>: Matching and mirroring physiology is one of your most powerful, yet under-utilized, leadership tools for creating rapport and trust.  And you can learn it in minutes.</p>
<h3><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>Final comments</strong></span></h3>
<p><strong>Your body language can make or break your leadership influence,</strong> emotional state and trust within relationships. While it’s easy to use your physiology to increase your leadership effectiveness, it does take focus, intention and practice.</p>
<p><strong>Decide right now what situations in the coming week</strong> – a meeting, performance review, customer negotiation, etc – in which you will use your body language to communicate authority, build rapport or just feel good for no good reason.</p>
<p><strong>Then email me and let me know the outcome.</strong></p>
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<p><strong>In 1987, I flew to LA to a women’s leadership conference for one reason only.</strong>  To meet Anita Roddick, founder and “then” CEO of multi-billion dollar franchise,</p>
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<p><em>The Body Shop</em>, and asked her to write the forward of my book (to which she did say <em>yes). </em></p>
<p><strong>When I met her, I was stunned how amazingly small she was</strong> (even smaller than myself J).  Yet her commanding presence was so powerful, 30 years later, that memory is still vivid in my mind.</p>
<p><strong>Leadership p<em>resence</em> includes character, charisma and self-confidence YET is much more.</strong></p>
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<p><strong>In 1987, I flew to LA to a women’s leadership conference for one reason only.</strong>  To meet Anita Roddick, founder and “then” CEO of multi-billion dollar franchise,</p>
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<p><em>The Body Shop</em>, and asked her to write the forward of my book (to which she did say <em>yes). </em></p>
<p><strong>When I met her, I was stunned how amazingly small she was</strong> (even smaller than myself J).  Yet her commanding presence was so powerful, 30 years later, that memory is still vivid in my mind.</p>
<p><strong>Leadership p<em>resence</em> includes character, charisma and self-confidence YET is much more.</strong>  People with <em>large</em> <em>presence</em> actually exert a magnified energy field or aura.  You feel it.  You know it.  You are impacted by it.</p>
<p><strong>The BIG question is</strong> … <em>How can YOU develop your own leadership presence?</em></p>
<p><strong>It all starts within, even before you speak.</strong>  Let’s look at the 3 most important <em>how to’s.</em></p>
<h3 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>Presence Factor 1: Own Your “Space”</strong></span></h3>
<p><strong>I learned about the importance of <em>owning my space </em>from 3 completely unrelated interests</strong> &#8212; dancing, professional speaking and Qi Gong.</p>
<p><strong>I learned, for example, to own my space as a speaker by claiming the stage as my <span style="text-decoration: underline;"> “home</span>.”</strong> Mentally, saying to myself <em>“This is my place. I am home here. I own it</em>.”   It also meant pausing before I spoke … as I stood centered and grounded on the stage … connecting silently with every single person in the audience.   It meant utilizing the entire stage – not just one area – to move and connect with my audience.</p>
<p><strong><em>Owning your space</em> is not physical nor visual.</strong> It is kinesthetic, energetic and spatial. It’s mindset, attitude, personal power and congruent physiology/tonality all wrapped up in one.</p>
<p><strong><em>Owning your space </em>is absolutely crucial to become a powerful, influential leader</strong>. Practice these 2 steps and you are on your way.</p>
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<h4><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Decide you belong …</strong></span></h4>
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<p><strong>whether it is on the dance floor, on the stage, at the head of a conference table or leading an entire nation.  </strong> Know you belong. Claim it. Step into it fully.  It’s your space, your place. And no one else’s.</p>
<p><strong>When you own your space, you are letting your organization know that you believe in your value</strong> … that your voice and contribution matter.</p>
<p><em>Are you a leader that owns your space?</em></p>
<p><em>Or do you do everything you can to take up as little space as possible?</em></p>
<p><em>In your role, do you tend to shrink back from shining? Uncomfortable with attention? Feel insecure about yourself?</em></p>
<p>Your feelings about yourself and your ownership of space are directly correlated.   The question is: <em>how do you change one or both?</em></p>
<p>That brings us to the next step for owning your space.</p>
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<h4><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Clear your space and make it your own.</strong></span></h4>
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<p><strong>According to quantum physics, every living creature has an energy field or space.</strong> The problem is that you are bombarded continuously by the demands, thoughts and emotions of others to the point that <span style="text-decoration: underline;">their energy</span> <span style="text-decoration: underline;">is in your space</span>. That’s right … <em>their energy is in your space.</em> And you are not even aware of it.</p>
<p><strong>Many of the fears you experience are not even yours.</strong> They may be your parents’, spouse’s or colleagues’. They may be the media’s fears about the economy or other social ills. Or any other person for that matter.</p>
<p><strong>The solution … you must clear your inner space of other’s “emotional clutter.”</strong> Here’s one simple exercise to do so.</p>
<p><em>Take a few deep breaths. Now simply observe your self-talk, emotions and thoughts. Are you replaying a conversation in your head? Are you feeling resentful because of another’s actions? Are you anxious about any specific area of your life?</em></p>
<p><em>Now set an intention to claim your space, mind and thoughts only for you &#8230; no one else. It’s time to clear your space. Imagine a giant magnet or vacuum cleaner – bigger than you – clearing out the “garbage” from your space. Give yourself a minute or so to pull out as much as you can. </em></p>
<p><strong>Notice how much more space and freedom you now experience.</strong> Fill your space with an empowering color that signifies who you are and what you want to project to the world.</p>
<p>Guess what? You now own your space. Keep doing the above steps till owning your space becomes a part of who you are.</p>
<h3 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>Presence Factor 2: Get Into Your Zone (aka “flow state”)</strong></span></h3>
<p><strong> </strong><strong>Like it or not, your imagination drives both your leadership successes and failures.</strong><em> </em></p>
<p><strong>What you rehearse in your imagination, you tend to get. </strong> If you imagine yourself going on stage and forgetting your lines, guess what? That’s what will happen</p>
<p>If, on the other hand, you see yourself giving a confident, mesmerizing performance (assuming you prepared), you will likely get that.</p>
<p><strong><a href="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/swimmer-563857_640-e1428972969909.jpg"><img class="alignleft wp-image-2571" src="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/wp-content/uploads/swimmer-563857_640-300x199.jpg" alt="in the zone" width="375" height="249" /></a>Mental rehearsal is a process, using your imagination and 5 senses, that puts you into your flow state. </strong>Every Olympic athlete uses it. That’s what got Michael Phelps 18 gold medals!</p>
<p>Phelps would lay in bed, eyes closed, and mentally rehearse the entire race. The start, diving into the water, and every detail of every stroke as though it was happening in real-time. He imagined even his warm up routine, possible mishaps and his responses to them, over and over again.</p>
<p><strong>NOTE: Mental rehearsal is NOT the same thing as visualization. </strong>There are 2 main distinctions.</p>
<p><strong>The focus of visualization is on the end result</strong> – such as, making a certain income. The focus of mental rehearsal is on the experience and execution – such as feeling confident, your movements and gestures, etc.</p>
<p><strong>Visualization just includes the visual sense or images.</strong> When I teach mental rehearsal, I want my clients to use at least 3, ideally all 5, senses to have a powerful internalized “memory” of how they want to show up.</p>
<p>To use mental rehearsal to develop your commanding leadership presence, you need to:</p>
<h4><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Step 1: Describe how you want to perform</strong></span></h4>
<p>Identify a specific situation where you would like to exhibit leadership presence. Describe in detail … what will you see, feel, hear, smell and taste when you experience presence? For example, <em>I am smiling and energetic. I exude confidence yet remain calm and authentic. I notice the audience engaged and present. </em></p>
<h4><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Step 2: Mentally rehearse as though <span style="text-decoration: underline;">watching yourself in a movie</span></strong></span></h4>
<p>Imagine you are watching yourself on a movie screen. See yourself showing up with presence in a specific situation. Include rich colors and images that are large and close to make real. See yourself acting decisively and without fear. Now include all sounds – eg., your voice exuding authority and background noises in the room. Include all feelings – temperature, mood, your body moving effortlessly. Who else is with you? What are they doing?</p>
<h4><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Step 3: Mentally rehearse as though <span style="text-decoration: underline;">you are in the movie</span></strong></span></h4>
<p>Now step into the image of yourself and run through the scenario again. This time you are seeing, feeling and hearing it as if it is happening NOW. Allow your imagination to create even greater details, more vivid colors, feeling exactly as you want to feel.</p>
<p>Repeat these 3 steps a number of times before your designated event or situation.</p>
<h3 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>Presence Factor 3: Cultivate Your (Life Force) Energy </strong></span></h3>
<p><strong>Knowing how to work with life force energy – yours and others &#8212; is key to successful leadership.</strong>  According to the book <em>15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership,</em></p>
<p><em>“We have found that conscious leaders are masters at managing energy. When they allow energy to flow, they are alive, engaged, passionate, on purpose, creative, innovative, intuitive, clear, visionary, playful, relaxed and refreshed. Energy flow is our natural state, but when it’s blocked or interrupted, the life force so essential to great leadership is dampened, and effectiveness wanes immediately and drastically.”</em></p>
<p><strong>When you learn how to work with and control your life force energy, your leadership presence, influence and performance will skyrocket.</strong> Where you put your mental attention can actually change your physical body and emotional energy. Here’s an exercise to demonstrate that. Do it with a partner.</p>
<h4><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Cultivating Inner Balance</strong></span></h4>
<p><strong>First, put every ounce of your attention on your right ear lobe.</strong> Make sure your thoughts are on nothing else. When there, ask your partner to gently push you on the shoulder from the front. You will discover that the slightest touch will put you off balance.</p>
<p><strong>Next, imagine there is a large golden sphere of energy in your belly area,</strong> just below the navel. Now put all your attention on this sphere. (In QiGong, we call this your <em>energy center or dantian.) </em>Once all your attention is there, ask your partner again to push your shoulder. Notice the difference. While the shoulder may move toward the back, you spring right back and don’t lose your balance.</p>
<p>Just 3-5 minutes a day, focusing on a golden sphere of energy in your belly is all you need to cultivate mental, emotional and physical balance, as well as build your life force energy. Even YOU can afford that little time for such a high payoff.</p>
<h3 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>Now It’s Your Turn</strong></span></h3>
<p><strong>The 3 strategies above – owning your space, mentally rehearsing and cultivating your life force energy – will put you on your path to a commanding leadership presence.  </strong> These strategies only take a small investment of time and daily practice.</p>
<p>As you increase your presence, you will find yourself closing more deals, wowing your audience and/or employees, achieving your vision and igniting passion in your organization.  Not to mention you will feel happier and at ease within yourself.</p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>MAY PREVIEW:</strong></span></p>
<p><strong>Want to know the leadership secrets for building a climate of trust with your employees?  </strong>Stay tune for part 3 of our article series &#8212; <em>How To Unlock Your Leadership Influence Instantly &#8212; </em>in May.</p>
<p><strong>Want to learn more about leadership influence?   Check out the following articles.</strong></p>
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<p><strong>Influence is not something tangible, physical or material. </strong> Yet it’s real.  You know when you are in the presence of it.  Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Jr. and Steve Jobs just to name a few.</p>
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<p><strong>There is no leadership without influence.</strong> You can have a leadership title, yet have no  influence.  How influential are you?  Does your team listen to your every word with attention, openness and trust?  Is your team inspired to take action simply by what you say and do?</p>
<p><strong>Influence comes from the latin root “<em>influere”</em> meaning to<em> flow in. </em></strong></p>
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<p><strong>Influence is not something tangible, physical or material. </strong> Yet it’s real.  You know when you are in the presence of it.  Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Jr. and Steve Jobs just to name a few.</p>
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<p><strong>There is no leadership without influence.</strong> You can have a leadership title, yet have no  influence.  How influential are you?  Does your team listen to your every word with attention, openness and trust?  Is your team inspired to take action simply by what you say and do?</p>
<p><strong>Influence comes from the latin root “<em>influere”</em> meaning to<em> flow in. </em></strong> When you are an influential leader, your words and intentions flow into another’s unconscious mind without resistance.  Your words are not just accepted.  Your words motivate.  Your words change minds, attitudes and behaviors.</p>
<p><strong>The BIG question is</strong> … How do you develop and increase your leadership influence?</p>
<p><strong>This big question has a big answer. </strong> In this first of 3 articles on this topic, let’s look at the easiest and quickest way to increase your leadership influence.</p>
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<h3 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>The Power of Language and Influence</strong></span></h3>
<p><em>What makes certain words or language particularly persuasive or influential?</em></p>
<p><strong>Influential words bypass the reasoning or critical mind</strong> and into a person’s unconscious mind.  When using these words, you avoid a person’s resistance or defenses to what you are communicating.  You are speaking directly to the part of the brain that houses his/her memories, emotions and creativity.</p>
<p><strong>When you gain such powerful access to one’s mind, you can lead people to where you want them to go. </strong> Because of such power, these words should be used only for positive intentions and never for manipulative reasons.  Use these words wisely and only to help a person change and grow.</p>
<p>Given that caveat, let’s take a look of 5 power words that can change your capacity to lead.</p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><strong>1.  “IMAGINE …”</strong></span></p>
<p>Anyone who has ever worked with me knows I use the word <em>“imagine”</em> often to help my clients achieve breakthroughs that once seemed impossible or improbable.</p>
<p><strong>As children, we lived our lives through our imaginations.</strong>  And it all seemed so real.</p>
<p>Whether we wanted to be a monkey, or fly to Paris, or find hidden treasures of gold, our imaginations could create a whole new world in our minds in a single moment.  A world where there were no limits.  A world where we could be or do anything we wanted.  A world where the possibilities were endless.</p>
<p><strong>When I use the word <em>imagine</em> with my clients, my intent is to take them beyond the boundary conditions of their thinking</strong> and create new realities, new possibilities that are not accessible through the conscious mind.</p>
<p><strong>Leaders who know how to tap into the imaginations of others can move mountains</strong> in their organizations without much effort.  The more you tap into others’ imaginations, the more successful you and they become.</p>
<p>Are you ready to increase your leadership influence … right now?</p>
<p><strong>Then close your eyes and …</strong></p>
<p><em>Imagine</em> how good it feels as you tap into your employees’ imagination, creativity and inspiration with one simple word … <em>imagine.</em></p>
<p><em>Imagine</em> how good you will feel as you prove to yourself that you can be an influential leader simply with practice of one simple word … <em>imagine.</em></p>
<p>Don’t wait till tomorrow.  Start using this one powerful word now.  Have fun with it!</p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #ff0000;">2.  “BECAUSE”</span></strong></p>
<p><strong>Think back to those times when you were a child and you attempted to negotiate with your parents</strong> for extra money, or to stay out later, or to have a snack before meals.  Do you remember what mom or dad said?</p>
<p>After 2-3 times of your mother/father turning you down, you probably said in a pleading tone …</p>
<p><em>But why, mom?</em></p>
<p>To which your mother said …</p>
<p><em>Because  I said so.</em></p>
<p>If you were like me as a kid, you backed down after that.  Why?</p>
<p><strong>The word <em>because</em> assumes a cause effect relationship.</strong>  For this reason, when the critical factor of your mind hears that word, it treats it as a cue to let the speaker through to your unconscious mind.</p>
<p>It’s been found in various studies that when you make a request followed by the word <em>because</em> (with a phrase), doing so will increase responsiveness to your request by as much as 50%.</p>
<p><strong>That has huge implications to the business world In sales, negotiations, customer relations and, most of all, leadership. </strong> Let’s take a look at a few scenarios.</p>
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<p><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Delivering Corrective Feedback</strong></span></p>
<p><strong>Most leaders when giving corrective feedback simply make a request for a new behavior, like …</strong></p>
<p><em>“Tom, you need to turn your cell phone off during meetings.”</em></p>
<p>Some employees will adhere.  Others will resist, rebel or ignore.  Let’s replay the conversation.  This time using word because.</p>
<p><em>“Tom, you need to turn off your cell phone during meetings <span style="text-decoration: underline;">because</span> others find it disruptive and a distraction. Please watch it going forward.”</em></p>
<p>Explaining why the behavior needs to be changed (because) causes the recipient of the feedback to see the damage caused.</p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Goal Buy-in</strong></span></p>
<p><em>“Our goal is to answer all customer calls within 60 minutes.”</em></p>
<p>VS.</p>
<p><em>“We will always answer all customer calls within 60 minutes <span style="text-decoration: underline;">because</span> we have found that doing so, increases customer retention and that will increase the frequency of bonuses.”</em></p>
<p>That is persuasive. Just stating your goals does little for employee motivation.  Helping employees to see the why behind the goal – for them and the company – does.</p>
<p><a title="Motivation" href="http://http://www.empoweredbusiness.com/solutions/organizational-performance-programs/the-motivation-edge/"><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Motivation</strong></span></a></p>
<p><em>“We’re going to have an awesome month, team!”</em></p>
<p>VS.</p>
<p><em>“We’re going to have an awesome month <span style="text-decoration: underline;">because</span> we have the best company culture in the industry, our customer returns are at an all time low, and our sales team is on the fast track to closing more business.”</em></p>
<p>It’s great to believe in people.  It’s more motivating, however, to tell them why you believe in them.</p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #ff0000;">3.  “AND”</span></strong><br />
<span style="color: #ff0000;"> (always use in place of “but”)</span></p>
<p><strong><em>And</em> – when used with intention – is one of the most powerful, persuasive words in the English language.</strong></p>
<p>Let’s look at one specific leadership application of this word that can eliminate all resistance, even in the toughest of conversations with your employees.  That application is using and in place of the word <em>but</em>.</p>
<p><strong>It’s a leader’s responsibility to give honest feedback – even corrective feedback – to its employees. </strong> Unfortunately, many leaders use the word but in delivering their corrective feedback.</p>
<p><em>“You did a great job with this report, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">but</span> it was filled with many misspellings.”</em></p>
<p><strong><em>But</em> is one of the most dangerous words to use in any conversation. </strong> It negates everything you said before the word but.  In the above examples, it means – you did not really think that person did a great job.</p>
<p><strong>Now eliminate the word <em>but</em> and replace it with <em>and.</em></strong>  Notice the difference in tone, the ability to receive the feedback without resistance, as well as the ability to add a follow-on.</p>
<p><em>“You did a great job with this report <span style="text-decoration: underline;">and</span> it was filled with many misspellings.  So let’s get started in cleaning up those misspellings to make it even better.”</em></p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ff0000;"><strong>4.  “AWARE”</strong></span></p>
<p>This is one of my personal favorite power words <strong>because simply saying the word will cause the listener to mentally process what you brought up.</strong>  <em>Aware</em> … and related words like <em>realize</em> or <em>experience</em> … are important additions to your influence arsenal because everything that follows those words is presupposed to be true.</p>
<p><strong>Let’s take a look at some powerful leadership examples.</strong></p>
<p><em>“You are probably already <span style="text-decoration: underline;">aware</span> of the fact that when you practice our company value of respect, you will create comradery with your teammates.&#8221;</em></p>
<p><em>“Are you starting to <span style="text-decoration: underline;">experience</span>  how easily you can use these words to become a more influential leader?”</em></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #ff0000;">5.  “NOW”</span></strong></p>
<p><strong>With the word <em>now</em>, you direct one’s thinking and focus to the present time. </strong> In your leadership role, let’s look at some examples where you are implanting, at the unconscious level, a thought of positive change in the here and now.</p>
<p><em>“As you take a few minutes to collect your thoughts, notice how effortlessly solutions come to you <span style="text-decoration: underline;">NOW</span>.”</em></p>
<p><em>“By <span style="text-decoration: underline;">NOW</span>, you may be wondering what other changes can you make with the power of words.”</em></p>
<p><strong>While, by no means, are these the only power words that leaders can use to influence. </strong> The above words, however, are unique in their ability to bypass resistance and create positive change easily and naturally.</p>
<p><strong>The most influential people know how to use words and language intentionally</strong> to inspire, motivate and win the hearts and minds of others, even their biggest opponents.</p>
<p>The next time you give feedback to your employee … the next time you want to inspire your team to follow your vision … the next time you negotiate a big deal with a potential customer, <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>imagine</em></span> how good you will feel <em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">because</span> </em>you used your power words <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>and</em></span> achieved your desired outcome.  You can start <em>experiencing</em> those good feelings <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>now.</em></span></p>
<p>In part 2 of this article series,<strong> we will look at 3 little known, yet powerful techniques to unleash your influential leadership potential, even before you speak a word. </strong> <em>A must read!</em></p>
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<p>Denise Corcoran helps growth-seeking companies develop game-changing leadership teams and organizations that drive double and triple digit growth … by design. Her company &#8212; The Empowered BusinessTM &#8212; is one of the few companies providing whole brain, strategic solutions for unleashing leadership and organizational potential that conventional methods can’t achieve. Learn how to master your Inner Game of Leadership, by downloading our free report – <a title="Special Report" href="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/free-stuff/special-report/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0000ff;">Wired to Win Big</span>.</a> Connect with Denise at her <span style="color: #0000ff;"><a style="color: #0000ff;" title="Blog" href="https://www.empoweredbusiness.com/blog/" target="_blank">Blog</a>, <a style="color: #0000ff;" href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/denisecorcoran/en" target="_blank">LinkedIn</a>, <a style="color: #0000ff;" href="https://twitter.com/denisecorcoran4" target="_blank">Twitter</a></span> or contact her via email.</p>
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